I heard from a wife who said: “it’s only been eight days since I found out about my husband’s affair. Even though I am devastated and hurt, I’ve agreed not to kick my husband out until I decide what I really want to do. Last night, I agreed to let my husband take me out to dinner. I have to admit that we had a good time. It felt good to laugh even if it was only for a minute. That night, after we put our daughter to bed, we were still getting along reasonably well. I didn’t feel any need to put an end to our good time, but my husband took it all the wrong way. He kissed me and then started pawing at my clothes. I was horrified. I am definitely not ready to have sex with him. I would only think about him with the other woman. I have no intentions of having sex with him until I am satisfied that he is rehabilitated. Regardless of what I say though, I am very clear on the fact that I am nowhere near ready to have sex with him.”
You want to find out if she’s being unfaithful today. Feeling suspicious about someone you care about can be absolute torture. Not only do you feel completely inadequate, you feel like you’re getting played. You want to know one way or another if your girl is being straight with you, but you’ve always wondered, “How can I catch her cheating?” I’m going to lay it out for you in a way that’s easy to understand and will give you answers right away.
You deserve to know if you’re the only one being loyal in this relationship. Get the facts and find out if she’s cheating now.
Monogamy – If you haven’t talked about it yet, she may not think you’re in a relationship. Some girls are open to having sex with more than one guy at a time when they’re dating. You need to make sure you’re both on the same page, what you might think is cheating she might think is just a part of dating.
Spending the Night- You’re having sex, and things are all finished up, you’re cuddling and all of a sudden she gets up and starts putting her clothes on and leaving. If this happens every single time, she might have some one else she needs to wake up next to in the morning. If she’s not willing to spend the night, you might be getting played.
Her Place – You have no idea where she lives or you’ve never been invited up. This is a major warning sign. When a girl is committed to her guy, she’ll invite him into her space and definitely be okay with him spending the night. Her not inviting you over or letting you know where she lives is a key sign she’s hiding something from you. She could be living with another guy, or not trust you enough to have you over, which means she doesn’t consider you boyfriend material.
Her Friends – You haven’t met any of her friends, don’t know anyone she works with and have no idea who she hangs out with when you’re not together. If any of these are true, she doesn’t think you’re together. When girls are into you they want you to meet their friends so that their girls can approve. You haven’t met her friends if your girl thinks that you’re not worth it and you’re just another notch on her bedpost.
You’ll know if your girl is being unfaithful if you’ve read these warning signs and all of them sound all too familiar. If you’re not being taken seriously, you need to talk to your lady now. You deserve to be in a trusting relationship where you don’t have to worry about how to catch her cheating.
Take control back and find out if she’s cheating today and sleep better tonight. Don’t let any girl take advantage of you just because you care. You will meet the girl of your dreams, and if you’re with a cheater, she definitely isn’t worth any more of your time.
Talking to boys can be one of the most difficult things to do, particularly if you actually like the boy you want to talk to. There will most likely be thoughts that cross your mind like “I don’t know what to say to him”, “what if he thinks I’m stupid”, and so on.
Here are some tips to help you understand what boys like to talk about and how they react to various topics.
Get him to talk about himself – Ask questions that will get him to talk about the things he likes, what his thoughts are. For example, ask which team his cap or jacket is from and how long he’s been following them for, ask what he thought of an earlier class, ask what he likes to watch on TV, what sort of movies he likes to watch, and so on. You will be able to learn quite a bit about him from these types of questions. I would recommend staying away from questions that have a simple yes/no answer such as “did you like that class” or “did you watch [a particular TV show] last night”. Open-ended questions will help the conversation flow more naturally and for longer.
Give him time to talk – When we are nervous, we tend to fill the silence with words. It removes any awkward silences, but at the same time, it doesn’t allow the other person to have an input into the conversation. If you tend to talk a lot when you’re nervous, focus on asking a question and then stopping. Also, take two deep breaths before beginning to speak. This will give him enough chance to say something if he wants to, and it will prevent him from feeling smothered in a one-way conversation.
Use laughter to ease the tension – If you can find something to laugh about – a joke you have heard or something funny that happened, that’s a great way to ease the tension and make the conversation fun for the both of you.
Stick to the truth – We often feel that our true selves isn’t worth the attention we want. To compensate for this, we are prone to stretching the truth to make ourselves look more impressive. This is a mistake. It might seem to work in the short term, but it will definitely be harmful in the long term. Boys actually want to know that you are a real person with real positives, negatives, successes, and failures. Don’t hide them. Being truthful will allow for a stronger friendship to form between you.
Make eye contact – We don’t just communicate through our words. We also communicate through our body language and our eyes. Making eye contact shows that you respect him and are interested in what he has to say.
Make the first move – Just as you are nervous about going up and talking to him first, boys are also very nervous about approaching girls. They have the same fears of “looking stupid” and no knowing what to say. Unfortunately one of you will have to make the first move and it might as well be you. The sooner you get it done, the sooner you will know whether he has an interest in you, and the sooner the anxiety of not knowing will be resolved.
If you aren’t sure about how to approach a boy for the first time, first make a connection by smiling as you walk past each other. He will notice you and return the smile. Say “hi” as well. Although this seems like a very small thing, it will make the first time you have a conversation more natural and more comfortable.
When you approach him for the first time to start a conversation, try to do it when he’s alone somewhere. This will allow him to be himself. Ask one or two open-ended questions like those suggested at the beginning of this article. All you want from this conversation is to get him talking to you, and only for a very short time. Don’t expect a lengthy conversation. Just one or two exchanges. End the conversation by saying that you have to head off to class or meet with some friends.
Once you have done it the first time, it will be easier to repeat having a short conversation with him. Do this two to three times and your conversations will naturally increase in length and deepen in content. From here you will be able to direct your conversations to where you want them to go. Do what feels natural. You will be able to have longer and deeper conversations, and you will be able to organise doing some things together like getting a bite to eat or going to see a movie.
Talking to boys is very different to talking to your best friends. The first exchange is the hardest. But keep this to a very short conversation just to break the ice, and let your conversations become longer naturally. Don’t be too critical of yourself. Give it time. Each time you do it your anxiety will reduce and you will become more comfortable with it.
Because of addiction to so called love, she has difficulty making choices between her personal wellbeing and disrespect he displays toward her.
She exhibits dependency and insecurity, giving the impression she is too helpless to function independently of a conning, sometimes overbearing man, whose jealousy and control is not about any love he pretends to show toward her. It is about making sure to protect his interest against another guy’s encroachment. Thing is, she might mean something else to him-caring and loving, while his interests are sex and other benefits, which he attempts to protect by controlling her to prevent another man from snatching her.
She consistently exercises poor judgment and lack of assertiveness, leaving her vulnerable to the extent of every other love partner treating her as doormat. Knowing the dire situation of the relationship, she questions why, but never makes an effort to reevaluate what exactly men that do not know each other, let alone compare notes, see about her that invite using her to their respective advantage.
By her behaviour and attitude, she unsuspectingly allows him or others to act on her behalf by supposedly expressing what she truly thinks and feels but unwilling to speak out; by placating her self-worth, she inadvertently transfers power to him, giving him authority to speak for both of them. She is quite aware that his extreme jealousy could lead to violence, but remains convinced she could manage his behaviour; after all, he loves her, she tells herself. Because of a sense of love emanating from him, albeit false, she remains in an unconscious state of denial about her ominous situation, despite friends and relatives support and advice to reevaluate and drop the loser.
Because she lacks self-worth though denies it, she has a habit of always finding excuses for why she cannot stand up for herself against physical and mental abuse by him. In addition, she chooses not to walk away owing to responding to threats from him that if she did, bad thing will happen to her. What she does not realize, much less understand is, such a threat is code for his fear of what could happen to him if she left. The principal message from any guy posing threats against a woman in such a fashion is, “I am scared and dependent on you”; if you walk away I will fall apart. Only smart women have the ability to discern a controlling man’s weaknesses, based on warnings and threats. Seemingly, women have not come to grip with the common cord that runs through every scared, dependent, yet controlling man. Generally, they are lazy and would never dream of walking away to be by themselves. The second reason for staying put, even though he makes her look like crap is, he is never sure if the next woman would put up with his laziness as his current partner does. Habits are hard to break; thus, a guy that is used to controlling women would be hard pressed to adjust to another woman capable of standing up to him. Essentially, because he is so dependent on women supporting him, he has no clue how living alone would affect his survival.
You give him a free pass to continue mistreating you when you surrender your values by signaling you are needy, vulnerable and might become lonely if he leaves you. It might not be in his active makeup to dream of leaving, knowing he is too lazy to be on his own. Yet he will play up his readiness to move on, having sized you up enough to know you are supposedly weak.
As female, another reason why you find excuses in his favour is that as much as he mistreats you, you are the one feeling scared and guilty that if you walked away something might happen to him. In essence, you are scared for him. Hmm! A classic case of lacking self-introspection is when you, the victim of abuse allows pity for the criminal-the abuser to cloud your judgment about making the ultimate decision to walk. Is that pretentious smile you often wear around family, friends, and co-workers a mere shield, covering the hurt feelings you endure daily because of your partner’s behaviour and attitude toward you? Hurt feelings or not, dependently controlling men maintain one trick that pulls vulnerable women in ways that neutralize momentary anger. Good old sex with a twist of “baby I love you.” Women like to hear, if not having a man hug them and say I love you. Unlike men, whose endgame must include penetration, making love for many women could mean a mere hug, kiss and cuddling. Does this describe you in any way?
Finally, against all odds, she refuses to acknowledge the toxicity of the relationship to her peril, even though she is a sucker for protecting him, while inadvertently allowing him to filter out what he does not want to hear, coming from her. Arguably, she is living in unconscious denial about the reality that takes away from her in favour of rewarding him, despite his disdain for her. She cannot be sure that he feels guilty for his behaviour as much as she feels it is her fault for why he behaves negatively toward her. Hence, my diagnosis is, any woman that qualifies as owning any or all of the above drawbacks, would be correct in defining themselves as unworthy, which invites the doormat perception about you. You simply lack soul, which forces me to ask this question: for whom are you living and why, if you have cut yourself loose human dignity to accommodate a loser man? How do you plead?
Having a premature ejaculation problem isn’t easy. Not only do feel embarrassed and out of control, but you feel like you’re constantly disappointing your woman. If this sounds like you, you’ve come to the right place. This article will show you how you can stay hard under pressure with these five simple steps. You will leans tips on lasting longer in bed naturally without any strange creams, pills or chemicals. Read this article today and dominate your orgasm tonight.
There are so many factors that come into play when you get into bed with another woman. She not only takes longer to get warmed up, but can have multiple orgasms when she’s turned on. Men don’t get that luxury. We only get one shot and then need time to recuperate, recharge and get ready for the next one. This is something you can use to your advantage. You can actually control when you orgasm by changing up the way you have sex.
- Instead of going straight for intercourse, take your time with her. Get her warmed up long before you get hard. This will help you last longer naturally because you won’t be focusing on how turned on you get. Give her oral sex, use your fingers to get her juices flowing, whisper into her ear, pay extra attention to her nipples and by the time she’s begging for it, you won’t need to last long because she’ll be so hot and ready to orgasm right away.
- You need to make sure you masturbate before you have sex. No question about it. If you get your first orgasm out of the way, the next one will be harder to achieve, and will give you the upper hand between the sheets. Your body, after that first orgasm goes into what is called a Refractory period. This period is a time when your body recharges and can’t physically get erect.
- Change up positions, change them up as often as you need to. Every time you feel like things are getting a little too exciting, change the position you’re in. This will only work if you pull out. This trick is proven and effective. By pulling out you give yourself a break and time to cool down, and give her a major tease. She will be begging for you to get back inside of her, and will get a different kind of stimulation every time you change it up. Bonus.
- Use a tingling lubricant. This secret has been well kept by porn stars everywhere. Not only are you again, giving her added sensations and turning her on in more ways, you get the bonus side effects. Tingling lube has a natural numbing agent inside that actually makes you feel less intense sensations during intercourse.
- Focus on her. This might seem counter productive, but if you’re focused on her getting the most she can out of each sexual encounter, you won’t be paying attention to what your body thinks about the whole situation. By focusing on her, you pay less attention to your pleasure and last longer.
With these tips on lasting longer in bed naturally you’ll show your woman the time of her life and have her begging for more tonight. These five ways to stay hard under pressure will not only help you last, but will give her the best pleasure she’s ever had.
Great communication is the foundation of a great relationship. Without honest and open lines of communication between two people relationships fail. What keeps a partnership thriving is the ability for both parties to be able to talk about the ups, downs, and the sideways that happens in all relationships. Most people think that talking about problems only make problems worse. The truth is when a problem is allowed to grow it can become so large that it damages or destroys the relationship. Most people want to avoid talking about problems simply because they don’t know how to deal with them. They feel it’s best to avoid the elephant in the room in hopes that it’ll go away on it’s own, but the elephant isn’t leaving unless you’re going to give it some peanuts. That’s how problems are. If problems aren’t being dealt with their going to be around until you have no choice but to face them.
The problem with letting problems fester is that they can cause a lot of damage to the relationship. They can shutdown the passageway of communication between two people making it harder for the issue to even be discussed. When you can’t honestly, freely, and openly talk about a problem stress and frustration strain the relationship. This makes being in the partnership harder because you’re not at ease with what’s going on. Great communication skills can make a major difference in solving relationship problems quickly and easily. By developing better talking skills you can confidently handle issues as soon as they come up. This makes being in a partnership more fulfilling. There’s no such thing as a problem free life. Problems are just as much a part of life as anything else, and avoiding problems makes life a little harder to live.
One of the main issues that people experience in relationships is not knowing how to talk to the other person about what’s bothering them. Some people yell and scream because they wait until they get overwhelmed by emotions. Some people blame and accuse because they want to make sure that the other person takes responsibility for their actions. Most people shut down completely because they’re fearful of the outcome, but better communication skills can have a positive impact on the confidence that person has to speak up. There are many ways to improve your communication skills. If you’re not able to get the results you need with your current talking abilities that is a definitely an indicator that you need to improve your communication skills.
One simple way to become a better talker is by becoming a better listener. Half of everything people say get lost because people aren’t paying attention. Some of the important tidbits that lead to better understanding of that person, their thinking, and their actions get lost because they weren’t heard. A great way to show a person that you don’t care is to not listen to them when they need you to. This can make that person question whether or not being with you is worth the time. Everybody wants to be heard. Everybody wants to be understood. Listening is a way to let a person know that you hear and understand them. The satisfaction that comes from this happening instantly makes things a little better in a relationship. Listening also makes it possible for problems to be resolved more lovingly.
Another way to instantaneously improve communication between the two of you is to make sure that the other person knows that you understand them. You can do this by telling them what you’ve heard them say, and by asking questions to further increase your knowledge of their message. By doing this you’re letting them know that you’re interested, concerned, and caring about their feelings. When people feel that they’re feelings are respected they tend to be a little easier to deal with. This also causes the other person to be more willing to listen and hear you when you have something to say. This is how you keep communication open in a relationship. This is how you keep communication good in a relationship. The better communication is in a relationship the better the partnership can be.
A great way to keep a relationship healthy is by steadily improving your speaking abilities. By knowing how to express yourself the right way you can eliminate a lot of problems that arise out of poor speaking habits. You can create more positive unions with anyone you have to deal with. Good communication makes or breaks most relationships. It’s a great investment to devote the time and effort to improving your communication skills. The positive benefits and results that come from having these skills can make most things in your life better for you and the people you’re in relationships with.
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Struggling with premature ejaculation and control over your orgasm is something that a lot of men can identify with. You are not alone in this matter. It happens all of the time to men all over the world and they can all agree with you on the premise that they just want it to be over and done with.
We assume that premature ejaculation is something that we deal with in our teenage years, when we just first start having sex, but that is not the case. For some men, this condition follows them around for years to come. No matter what they do to try to alleviate it, nothing seems to work. What are you supposed to do if this is you?
Are you supposed to just admit defeat and suffer with early ejaculation for the rest of your life? Of course not. All you need is a fast fix for premature ejaculation that you can put all of your trust in. You don’t have to let this control your life for another moment. There is relief and it comes in the form of something natural and something safe.
You can last longer in bed tonight without pills by following these 3 simple steps.
The first step is to learn how to channel your energy and anxiety into something positive. For example, you are nervous about having sex because you are nervous about premature ejaculation and you are nervous about premature ejaculation because you are nervous about not pleasing your girl. Sound about right? What if you were able to make her orgasm before you even had? Then the pressure would be off of you to perform and you would be able to enjoy it, just as she would because she was already satisfied right off the bat.
Try going down on her before sex or try giving her some kind of stimulation to help her reach orgasm before you are inside of her. This will do wonders for the way you look at sex and it will help to take the edge off that affects you so strongly.
Another way to last longer in bed is to use some fast-acting techniques, such as putting pressure on your body. When you feel like you are close to losing control, try squeezing the tip of your penis. This will stop blood flow to the tip of your penis, allowing you to relax and allowing your orgasm to control itself.
If this doesn’t work, change it up and try tugging at your testicles away from your body. When you feel your orgasm approach, your testicles tend to suck up into your body. Avoid the reflex to orgasm by pulling them away from your body. This will help you out.
You don’t have to rely on pills in order to get the results that you are hoping for when there are so many natural remedies that you can put your faith into. You can last longer in bed and all you need to do is following a fast fix for premature ejaculation so you can get back on track.
Men tend to have a lot of misconceptions when they start dating online. This can lead to a lot of frustration, lack of results, and quitting. By understanding these misconceptions, success is far more likely, and many men have massive success online!
First of all, what is massive success mean? It various depending on the individual. One friend married the second women he met online and they have been happily married ever since. Another dated lots of different women and still is. Yet another dating about 12 women over a course of a year and is now with one in a serious relationship. Success is how you define it.
Misconception One: Pictures do not matter. You need at least one picture, and preferably several. Bare chested pictures are simply not a good idea. Also any pictures posing by expensive objects, for example cars, are bad. I’d suggest a combination of action shots (could be at work, while playing, or traveling) together with one or more professional shots. Look on Craigslist for a cheap professional photographer. Have women friends vet all the photos before you use them!
Misconception Three: Women go online to meet men. Some women do, but I know many women who went online and conversed with many men but never met a single one. Move on quickly if you have too – some will never meet anyone, as silly as that seems!
Misconception Four: Women’s pictures matter. I’ve met stunning women who had at best mediocre pictures. I’ve also met homely women who had fantastic pictures. Of we look at pictures, but they are not always representative. I even met one woman without a picture and she was very cute!
Misconception Five: Your profile is not very important. Your profile is in fact critical! Most women will look at your profile when you message them before they look at your email. If they do not like your profile your message often goes unread. It is worth spending time on your profile, and occasionally changing it and your pictures around.
Of course there are more misconceptions, but I’ve found these 5 to be very common!
For numerous individuals finding out their spouse is having an extramarital affair means one thing and one thing only: The relationship is finished. There is no forgiveness or maybe attempting to work it out with their mate. What is done is done and it is time to close that door for good and move forward to something and someone else.
At the opposite end of the spectrum are the husbands and wives who are not looking for an annulment. They know very well what took place but for whatever reason they are committed to remaining in the marital relationship. They may have discussed it with their unfaithful partner and discovered they felt the same way.
No matter what end of the scale you are sitting the the main thing is undoubtedly there are certain specifics you must do to make it through unfaithfulness in marriage.
1. Dealing with The Rage
That does not just mean addressing the animosity you will feel towards your cheating significant other but in addition at some level the hostility you are feeling toward you. What your significant other did could easily make you think that their unfaithfulness was a direct result of something you did or did not do.
In other words their cheating becomes your responsibility. You begin tearing yourself down as well as questioning why did you allow this to occur. Always remember you did not. No person can be the ideal spouse but the truth is you held up your part of the marriage contract. Trashing yourself is a form of self-anger therefore don’t allow this to happen.
At some point you will need to forgive your wife or husband for being unfaithful. Not so much what they did but the flawed individual who brought about all this unnecessary distress. You are not doing this to make your spouse feel better. You’re doing it so as to leave behind yesterday and begin the trek toward restoring you. This needs to happen irrespective of whether you make a decision to break up or stay in relationship. Forgiveness isn’t really about your mate as it is about your well-being.
3. Get Help
Do not try to act like the proud but lonely individual who gallantly takes all the pain and suffering without help from anyone. If you need to schedule regular therapy consultations with a psychologist, church pastor or perhaps a support network than do it. If family and friends offer their assistance then do not hesitate to take them up on their offer.
4. Facing The Fact
Pretending what your wife or husband did never took place merely postpones the healing and keeps those dreadful thoughts on autopilot. The quicker you deal with what your spouse has done the better. It is agonizing nonetheless it has to be carried out if you want to move ahead.
5. The Activities
You can’t hang around for hours on end thinking of your spouse’s infidelity. Therefore create an action plan and then work it. Get a buddy and start going to the gym on a regular basis if you don’t already. Discover some of those things that you used to love doing but stopped. Start a completely new hobby such as drawing.
Say to yourself that you would like to help out others and begin volunteering at the local hospital or a nursing home. It’s not that you are running away from what happened. It simply means you are determined to build a foundation which will make sure you come out of this better than ever. Action that makes you feel good about you is without question a tremendous part of the recovery process.