If you try to figure out what your fellow is thinking by looking at his actions, you might as well forget it. It won’t work. Women universally agree that men talk one way and behave another.
For example, when they are hanging out attempting to attract a woman, they think their childish behavior of leering and lewd comments is a turn on to women. Seriously? Do men really think women are attracted to players who act as if they can have any woman in the place? If they aren’t making lewd remarks then they proceed to engage in toilet humor and unfunny gross jokes to demonstrate how clever they are.
Thinking this is what we want to hear, guys will claim great intentions of a committed relationship, but the next day you can’t find hide nor hair of them. Here’s another trick they pull, acting all distant and aloof, as if they don’t even notice the woman they actually covet. The real reason is because they are downright intimidated!
The unfortunate reality is that men really muck up the communication with women by acting in ways that really have no relation to their true feelings. Confusion is not the only problem here. The actions and behaviors can send a woman packing. What’s sad is that most of these fellows don’t even know they are confusing and repelling the woman they want. They act this way because they feel insecure.
Does your average smart gal even have an idea that this is what is really going on? Probably not! So what happens? The girl winds up confused and hurt by his awkward approach to romance.
So what can a girl do to make it clear to her guy that the act is a turn off and all she really wants is for him to be real? How is a woman supposed to understand what a guy really wants when he, himself, is hiding his true feelings?
Truth is, a woman can get a man to relax enough to reveal his true feelings, personality and wants, by practicing some tried and true methods that have been proven to work. The proven method – quite simply being your very authentic self. When you are your genuine self you will find that you become incredibly attractive to your guy. This is the magic bullet, but hard to do for some. Since we were little girls we’ve been taught to behave in ways to please others, not ourselves.
Here’s the deal. Once you can be your true self, discarding the persona, then you’ll see things start falling into place. You’ll find that things get easier once you allow your genuine self to take control. The best part, without even trying you’ll start to lure the right guy for you, the one who wants you for you.